The Dreamer
You are are accepting, trusting, and stable. You’re usually creative, optimistic, and supportive, but can also be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace. Inside, you want everything to go smoothly and be without conflict, but you can also tend to be complacent, simplifying problems and minimizing anything upsetting. You typically have problems with inertia and stubbornness. At your Best: indomitable and all-embracing, you are able to bring people together and heal conflicts.
Your Basic Fear: Of loss and separation
Your Basic Desire: To have inner stability "peace of mind"
To truly come into your own and take control of your future, try the ideas below.
Create Your Space
It is worth examining your type's tendency to go along with others, doing what they want to keep the peace and be nice. Will constantly acquiescing to the wishes of others provide the kind of relationships that will really satisfy you? Remember, it is impossible to love others if you are not truly present to them. This means that you have to be yourself, that you (paradoxically) have to be independent so that you can really be there for others when they need you.
Face Your Fears
Although this will be very painful for you, if your marriage has ended in divorce or if you are having problems with your children, you must honestly examine how you have contributed to these problems. Examining troubled relationships will be extremely difficult because the people involved have been close to your heart. The feelings you have for others endow you with much of your identity and self-esteem. But if you really love others, you can do no less than examine the role you have played in whatever conflicts that have arisen. In the last analysis, the choice is simple: you must sacrifice your peace of mind (in the short run) for the satisfaction of genuine relationships (in the long run.)
Move Your Body
Exercise frequently to become more aware of your body and emotions. (Some Dreamers run around doing errands and think that they are getting enough exercise.) Regular exercise is a healthy form of self-discipline and will increase your awareness of your feelings and other sensations. Developing body-awareness will help teach you to concentrate and focus your attention in other areas of your life as well. Exercise is also a good way to get in touch with and express some aggressions.
